Although movies and songs have immortalized the concept about the ‘one true love’, love is not limited to such confined boundaries. Love is a universal feeling and it is very likely that you would fall in love with numerous people in our lives. That being said and having considered the fact that you might have had multiple lovers in your life, there is a theory that philosophers and mystics have held for many years. It is said that in your lives you fall in real love only three times, with three different kinds of people. These three kinds of love are needed by every person for a different reason. This includes the first time that you fall in love. This is the love that looks absolutely perfect to you and makes you do stupid things. Then there’s the second time that you fall in love. This kind of love defines you and breaks you and makes you into what you are. This is the hard love. And finally it is the third time that you fall in love. This is the love that does not require any special reason and the one which lasts the ravages of time.
The first kind of love
The first kind of love is the innocent love, the love that has an idealistic definition to it. It is usually the love that you experience at a very young age and the one that seems to have appeared out of a movie or a fairy tale. You usually experience this kind of love in your high school. You believe that this is the love that is going to be the only love that you will ever experience and you tend to do everything in your power to make things work, which usually includes doing stupid things. This love is based on the expectations that society has upon you and as you grow up you tend to understand your own priorities and expect that your relationship will adjust to the changes.
The second kind of love
The second kind of love is the hard love. It is the love that will take you on an emotional roller coaster journey and make you hurt the most. Lies, manipulation, deceit and pain are all parts of this kind of love. This love is what makes you realize the kind of person that you are and the kind of person that you would want to spend the rest of your lives with. This love often ends in tears and heartbreak and can become an addictive cycle for you. Owing to the high level of passion and emotions that are involved in this kind of love it is very easy to get addicted to this kind of love. However, it must end one day as you grow emotionally and understand that this love isn’t the one for you.
The third kind of love
The third kind of love is the love that would not need you to list down reasons for it to be real. It is the love that you would least expect and the love that would simply be perfect. It usually happens with a person whom you would least expect it to happen with, but the connection and the bonding that you two will share will become an unending source of satisfaction and happiness for you. This is the love that will last the ravages of time. It won’t be as dramatic as the earlier stages of love but this love will bring with itself an immense sense of stability and practicality that the other stages of love never had.