Thoughts and Emotions Intimacy comes from a Latin word meaning ‘inner’. It is two people sharing the ‘inner self’. Marriage is meant to be an intimate relationship. Two of the things we share are our ‘thoughts’ and ‘emotions’. Emotions can’t be seen, but they can be revealed. When I say to my lover, “I’m feeling disappointed,” I have shared an emotion. If I tell her why then I’m sharing my thoughts. We make it easier for our spouse to share thoughts and emotions if we don’t pounce on them with condemnation. If you say, “Well, that’s nothing to be disappointed about. You shouldn’t let that bother you,” you have become a preacher, not a loving spouse. When you say, “I can see how that would be disappointing, tell me more about it.” You are encouraging intimacy Physical Touch Physical touch is one of the five love languages. For some people, it is their primary love language. If you want them to feel loved, then give them a hug, or a pat on the back. This is true for children as well as adults. If a child’s love language is physical touch and you seldom hug the child, the child will grow up feeling unloved. I remember a prison inmate who told me that he grew up feeling unloved by his mother. When he read my book: The Five Love Languages, he discovered that his love language was physical touch. We have long known that physical touch is a way of communicating emotional love. Stroked and kissed develop a healthier emotional life than those who are left for long periods of time without physical contact. Physical touch is also a powerful vehicle for communicating marital love. Holding hands, kissing, embracing and sexual intercourse are all ways of communicating emotional love to one's spouse. For some individuals, physical touch is their primary love language. Without it, they feel unloved. With it, their emotional tank is filled, and they feel secure in the love of their spouse. Implicit love touches require little time but much thought, especially if physical touch is not your primary love language and if you did not grow up in a "touching family." Sitting close to each other as you watch your favorite television program requires no additional time but may communicate your love loudly. Touching your spouse as you walk through the room where he is sitting takes only a moment. Touching each other when you leave the house and again when you return may involve only a brief kiss or hug but will speak volumes to your spouse. Love through gestures and expressions. That day it was getting heavy rain. I used to feel a lot of rain and my habit of watering in rain water, suddenly the amount of rain increased, along with the word made me crazy. Then I came near the window of my house and looked at my face The one who loves me more than my life is standing beside the window, both of us are looking stealthily and speaking in the eye, seeing Maria I see him as a different age than 18 years, well-organized face, tall, Mariah's eyes and lips, which attracts me much, his lips are red colored lipstick, calling me to him. I look forward to seeing Maria as much as I am; Maria is calling me in her house with her hand. I did not wait and we went to his room in the rain. I love him many times for many days I saw him in a lot of ways, but in my room I saw a different Marian, wearing white robes, long hair was randomly spreading which I repeatedly wanted to touch him. Wants to get to him I bravely grabbed his hand and both of them kissed me with their red color lips. It is very happy to come to the first of our two.
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